Let the easy be easy and the hard be hard
Let the Hard Be Hard—And the Easy Be Easy: A Therapist’s Advice for Overwhelmed Moms
Motherhood is full of challenges—some expected, some surprising, and some that should be simple but somehow feel impossible. (For example, why does filling out school forms feel more complicated than doing taxes?!) The truth is, not everything in motherhood is supposed to be hard—but when you’re carrying the weight of anxiety, perfectionism, and mental overload, even the easy things can feel overwhelming.
As a therapist specializing in anxiety and motherhood, I see this all the time. Moms push through exhaustion, overthink every decision, and beat themselves up for struggling. But what if you gave yourself permission to stop making everything equally hard? What if you allowed yourself to struggle with the tough stuff and embrace the ease where you can?
Why Do Moms Make the Easy Things Hard?
If you’re an anxious mom, you probably overthink everything. Society tells us we need to get every single decision right—from how we feed our kids to how we respond to tantrums to which brand of sunscreen we use. This pressure makes even minor choices feel monumental.
Decision paralysis: Should I let my kid watch TV while I make dinner, or is that bad parenting?
Guilt spirals: We had takeout twice this week—does that mean I’m failing at feeding my family?
Over-researching: Instead of just RSVPing “yes” or “no” to a birthday party, you’re deep in a Google hole about social development and whether your kid will feel left out.
Some things should be easy—but when anxiety takes over, they feel exhausting.
And Why Do We Expect the Hard Things to Be Easy?
At the same time, we convince ourselves that the truly hard parts of motherhood—like navigating tantrums, functioning on no sleep, managing work/life balance, and handling postpartum anxiety—should come naturally.
“Other moms seem to have it together, so why am I struggling?”
“I should just be able to push through.”
“It’s not that big of a deal—I should be able to handle this.”
These thoughts keep moms stuck in cycles of self-doubt, burnout, and anxiety. The truth? Motherhood is hard. It’s okay to struggle. But it’s also okay to stop making the simple things harder than they need to be.
How Therapy Helps Moms Break Free from Anxiety & Overwhelm
If reading this makes you think, Wow, this is me, you’re not alone—and you don’t have to stay stuck. Therapy helps moms reclaim their time, energy, and mental clarity.
Here’s how:
Learning to trust your decisions – Instead of second-guessing every choice, therapy helps you build confidence in your parenting.
Letting go of perfectionism – You don’t have to do everything perfectly to be a great mom. Therapy teaches you how to embrace “good enough” parenting.
Reducing anxiety and stress – If your brain feels like a browser with 57 tabs open, therapy gives you tools to quiet the mental noise.
Setting boundaries and prioritizing YOU – Because your needs matter, too.
Let the Hard Be Hard. Let the Easy Be Easy. And Let Therapy Help.
Motherhood isn’t supposed to be one endless struggle. Some things are genuinely hard—but some things don’t have to be. Therapy can help you sort through the mental load, release unnecessary stress, and feel more at peace in your role as a mom.
